Recognize — Name the pattern.
Most people arrive describing a situation — a manager, a partner, a decision they can’t make. The situation is real, but it isn’t the thing that keeps repeating.
We work backwards from the moment it goes wrong: what fired first, what you told yourself, what you did next. By the end of this stage you can name the pattern out loud. That alone changes how much power it has.
- The specific trigger, not the general story
- The belief sitting underneath the reaction
- Where and when it was installed
- What it has been protecting you from